Satisfaction is of 2 types : Satisfaction of the ego (that comes from things like car, possession and things - but it is never lasting and one always feels like having more and more - and it becomes a never ending quest) and the satisfaction that comes from relationships (which makes one feel worthy and is much more lasting). Relationships involve mutually satisfying role expectations.
To operate in this world you have to be conscious of others and, when you do that, you cannot avoid being conscious of yourself too. You constantly judge yourself and feel happy or otherwise depending on what others say and think of us. But then you give the control of how you feel about yourself in the hands of others. When the source of your happiness is from objects and other people, your happiness is bound to be fleeting. Most of us continuously feel inadequate. That makes us put an agenda in every relationship. You want every interaction and every relationship to make you happy. You expect every person to please you. Thus you become a self centered person : you want everything and everyone to make you happy.
What is the alternative ? It is to practice non violence. Even making a demand is a violence. Ask, have I done enough to make a demand? Are you ready to accept if a demand is not accepted? Be kind and yield and let go. Too much choice is also bad. Treat others as you expect to be treated. Be the change you want to see in others. What you want to see in others is your responsibility too.
The more you follow the law of life, the happier will you be.
Monday, April 2, 2012
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